Don't worry: I didn't know either. In fact, a friend tricked me into becoming a day-of wedding coordinator. That story aside, below are the main functions I perform as a day-of wedding coordinator. I will:
- Create a vendor and Wedding VIPs contact list. This is a directory of all names, phone numbers, and emails (as applicable) of any vendors and Wedding VIPs (a.k.a. family and friends involved in the ceremony). See what this looks like.
- Make a timeline. The main focus of this timeline is your wedding day but I also include any due date for vendor payments as well as timings for events leading up to your wedding (arrivals of family, the rehearsal, etc.). As soon as you book me, I create a skeleton of this timeline. Then, I develop it toward a final product due to you two weeks before your wedding. You review that and submit any changes. I then send a customized version of the timeline to all of your vendors (the week before your wedding) and to your Wedding VIPs (the week of your wedding).
- Review all contracts. I ask any new client to send me all of their wedding-related contracts. I review these and let you know of anything that catches my eye. I add the details to the contact list and timeline.
- Correspond with vendors. You're responsible for booking and working with your vendors in the months before your wedding; however, as soon as we finalize the timeline, I send a customized version of that to each vendor. I introduce myself (if you haven't already) and review any outstanding questions or concerns. Part of this work includes my creating a script for the DJ (if you have one). See examples of these types of emails.
- Send a monthly check-in. Every month until the month of your wedding, we'll have a regular check-in. This is typically an email (although phone or in-person are also options) where I note, in order of priority, what's on my radar in relation to your wedding. It's a time for us to check-in with each other and make sure we're on track.
- Run your rehearsal. If you're having a rehearsal, I will be there and provide all attendees a hard copy of their customized timeline (what I also sent via email earlier in the week). We'll review those details and then I'll lead the charge on walking us through the processional and other ceremony details. I don't typically attend the rehearsal dinner (no need for you to buy me a meal).
- Do all things wedding day. I've done a good job if you're not tied to your phone on your wedding day. I will handle all details — from last-minute mascara runs to final teardown. As I tell my clients, "I will do anything you need on your wedding day, as long as it's not burying a body."
- Serve as a sounding board. I've been to a a lot of weddings. Whenever helpful and wherever asked, I will offer you my opinion and advice. My goal: to help you make the choices that will create the day that you want.
- Provide an excuse. A bonus to having me as your day-of coordinator? I'm the perfect neutral party to act as an excuse when wedding planning gets heated. My only caveat: If you're going to tell your future mother-in-law that "My day-of coordinator really doesn’t recommend doilies on all of the seats" just tell me so we can keep our stories straight.
What's this going to cost me?
I fundamentally believe that every couple deserves to have a nice wedding day, regardless of budget. Some clients I bill hourly. Others I offer a flat fee. That said, in most cases, you can expect to pay me:
- A non-refundable deposit due upon booking (typically $250)
- The balance due two weeks before your wedding (typically between $750 and $1,250)
If that seems like a lot of money, I understand. Maybe you don't need a day-of coordinator (not everyone does). But if the tasks above sound like things you'd rather not do, hire me. I'll get the job done so you can enjoy what will likely be the biggest party of your life.